I don’t follow celebrity gossip, but it’s hard to be alive and swimming in our media soup and not know that something’s going on with somebody somewhere.
For instance, LeAnn Rimes, age 27, is a country music singer who cheated on her husband Dean Sheremet, age 29, with actor Eddie Cibrian, age 36. Because she was a cheater, there was controversy when she appeared on the cover of Shape Magazine.
She gave an interview to People Magazine about her adultery. I took her interview and redacted all the descriptions and comments and just left her quotes. I wanted to hear what it would sound like if she were talking to you directly, stripped of all the extras. How does someone who is caught cheating and in the public eye talk about their affair?
"I take responsibility for everything I’ve done. I hate that people got hurt. But I don’t regret the outcome. I was out of balance. My marriage was out of balance. There was something missing. It was very emotionally driven. I never once thought what I was doing was okay.
As much as I had disrespected Dean, I tried to respect him as much as I could moving forward. I tried to be as truthful as I could. I remember telling Dean that I had feelings for Eddie. It was very apparent it wasn’t a marriage that fulfilled either one of us.
The hardest thing to hear is someone call either of us a home wrecker, because we didn’t walk into a perfectly happy marriage and ruin it. This wasn’t one person saying, ‘I think I’ll go this direction.’ I feel they are becoming who they’re supposed to be.
I got married at 19 for all the right reasons: I was in love, and he was my best friend. But I don’t think I expected myself to change so much from 19 to 27. I became an adult at 13 – a fake adult. I almost jumped over all of the lessons that you would learn as a kid. Now I’m really becoming a whole person so that I have a good foundation to set my future on.
LeAnn Rimes and Eddie Cibrian met during the TV movie True Blood.
I would love to have a child of my own. I don’t know what the future holds, but I know it holds Eddie. Eddie and I are super-honest with each other. Even if it’s going to hurt, we both want the truth. It’s not just one person in the relationship who’s taking care of the other – it’s both of us putting the effort in. We are two separate people. He supports my independence, but he’s also there when I need him.
I went from having zero kids to having two around. That’s a whole other level of growing up fast. They’re not my children, but they’re a part of my life. They are so much fun.
I never expected my life to be like this, but I’m making the best of it. I’m really happy. I’ve moved on, and I hope there can be some forgiveness and acceptance."
So what is she saying? She says she takes responsibility, and felt guilty during the affair. But her marriage wasn’t working, and even her husband knew that. And after she had already deceived her husband, she tried to be honest towards him and not deceive him after the affair became known (the affair was outed by a magazine.)
She’s upset that others have called her a home wrecker, because she didn’t wreck any homes because none of the marriages were working out anyway. Besides, she got married very young, and didn’t realize she was going to change so much, and only now is she becoming a whole person.
She wants to have kids with Eddie. She’s honest with Eddie. She and Eddie tell each other the truth even if it hurts. She and Eddie support each other.
She didn’t expect this to happen, but now she’s happy.
She wants people to forgive her.